I remember in the beginning of high school I would wonder about it a lot.
I’d had experienced close to it growing up, but nothing like what I was dreaming about.
I would long for it but never would really get my hopes up.
If you know me, you know I am a One Tree Hill fanatic. I think one of the things that drew me in was the writing of the show. If there’s one show that I’ve watched that’s rich with good quotes, it’s that one.
I started watching it in high school, right around the time that the two friendships that were my best high school ones, were slowly dying.
So, when Peyton in OTH hit me with the line “people always leave,” I got it, I completely understood where she was coming from.
The Jordan who was eating lunch alone every day completely got Peyton in that time and wondered if it was ever going to change.
The thing I wondered about and longed for was that one best friend.
Don’t get me wrong, the friends I grew up with were and still are the best (shout out to my TCS gang). I was really blessed in that department. But once we got to high school and we were all in different places, there’s only so much we could do. My best elementary and middle school friends became those friends you only see once in a while but when you do, you pick up right where you left off.
The “only see them once in a while” part was the part that got me. And when I was sitting alone junior year after my two best high school friendships had completely dissolved, I wondered if I’d ever have that one friend.
That one friend that would text me all day. That one friend that would know what I was thinking before I said it. That one friend that would be down for the craziest of adventures.
That one friend that would sit with me and be mad or upset with me when life really sucked. But then they would pick me up and make me keep going.
The one friend that would make my sides hurt from laughing every time we were together.
That one friend that there was no “picking up where we left off.” Because no matter where each of our lives took us, we never actually left.
And then, where I least expected it, I found that friend.
I don’t think it was until my junior year of high school that I realized it.
Curly red hair and a coffee and Nike addiction bigger than mine walked into my life, and I don’t think I realized it for a while. I don't think I realized that I had found '"that one friend" I was always wondering about.
Frankly, I think that’s because I kept waiting for something to happen.
I was really hurt by the other friendships I let go this deep last time. So, I just kept waiting.
But I slowly realized that even if something did happen, I think you’ll still be around.
When you picked me up every Wednesday after school my junior and senior year, I started to think this was it. But I still wouldn’t get my hopes up.
I think the moment I knew it, I knew that you were that one friend, was my freshman year of college. I started in the summer and was struggling with the massive change of it all.
I knew my mom was coming to see me one day. But when I opened her car door, you jumped out too.
I showed you around campus and we totally crashed my scooter that day.
But I don’t think you know how much that day meant to me. The fact that you would jump in the car and come cheer me up for just a few hours, meant the world to me.
So, we ate Burrito Bros and I silently made a note that that was the day I realized that I was kinda stuck with your crazy redhead self.
Dear Mary: thanks for being that one friend.
Thanks for blowing up my phone all day, every day. Thanks for laughing at the same things as me. Thanks for always wanting to get coffee. Thanks for singing in the car with me. Thanks for driving to Gainesville a lot. Thanks for picking me up (literally and figuratively) more times than I can count.
Thanks for not leaving.
Thanks for being that best friend I always wondered if I’d have.
You’re the craziest, best step-half cousin and friend a girl could ask for.
Glad to know I’m stuck with you and your Jeep for a long time.
We sure do make one heck of a #DreamTeam.